Comments for Intentional Parents http://intentionalparents.com Average parents follow the crowd. Intentional parents pursue the goal. Wed, 07 Dec 2011 17:19:32 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on Choosing a Gift for the Party by Sonya http://intentionalparents.com/2004/05/01/choosing-a-gift-for-the-party/comment-page-1/#comment-26503 Sonya Wed, 07 Dec 2011 17:19:32 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2004/05/01/choosing-a-gift-for-the-party/#comment-26503 I recently read a wonderful book about raising sons that might encourage you, Elizabeth. It's called "Raising Real Men" by Hal and Melanie Young. Excellent resource! I recently read a wonderful book about raising sons that might encourage you, Elizabeth. It’s called “Raising Real Men” by Hal and Melanie Young. Excellent resource!

]]> Comment on Another Birthday Milestone by Sue Mosack http://intentionalparents.com/2009/04/04/another-birthday-milestone/comment-page-1/#comment-22746 Sue Mosack Sun, 02 Oct 2011 18:52:15 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/?p=175#comment-22746 Thank you for posting about praying Ephesians 3:14-21. I have known about this site for several months but just got around to reading more. This was spurred on by my quest for information about supplements and dietary changes to help my son with yeast overgrowth and possibly gluten/casein intolerance. He has mild autism, and reading this post, the prayer points you listed from the scriptures really resonated with what I see as his greatest spiritual needs. He has prayed to receive Jesus as his Savior, but too often he either seems far from the Lord or makes direct statements against belief in God and Christ. I am going to include these scriptures with the healing verses I pray daily. Thank you for posting about praying Ephesians 3:14-21. I have known about this site for several months but just got around to reading more. This was spurred on by my quest for information about supplements and dietary changes to help my son with yeast overgrowth and possibly gluten/casein intolerance. He has mild autism, and reading this post, the prayer points you listed from the scriptures really resonated with what I see as his greatest spiritual needs. He has prayed to receive Jesus as his Savior, but too often he either seems far from the Lord or makes direct statements against belief in God and Christ. I am going to include these scriptures with the healing verses I pray daily.

]]> Comment on Choosing a Gift for the Party by Elizabeth Macdonald http://intentionalparents.com/2004/05/01/choosing-a-gift-for-the-party/comment-page-1/#comment-18118 Elizabeth Macdonald Thu, 28 Jul 2011 13:22:29 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2004/05/01/choosing-a-gift-for-the-party/#comment-18118 Have an 18 yr old who has changed so much lately that hardly recognize him. He is hostile to me his mother and doesn't respect anything I say. He says he believes in God and is still wants to do something in his life that makes a difference to the world. He has done some amazing things for an 18 yr old such as produce a CD of the talent in his school and sold enough for charity to raise $1000 then the other night he arranged a coffee house with some of his friends and raised $600 for a local girl who has cancer and needs extra funds to get the treatment she needs. I am very proud of these accomplishments for him and tell him so but he still seems angry at me and It falls on deaf ears. We have defiantly had many struggles over the last few months about going to school, getting up outa bed before noon ete. He says I don't understand him and I need to leave him alone to live his own life. I the mean time I still have to wake him for work and get him there I am trying to do those things for this summer to keep the peace and get him through. He had plans to attend a christian college in the fall which I was supporting but lately he is talking about attending a music recording collage in vancover BC really far away from home. I have a hart time knowing how to respond. Have an 18 yr old who has changed so much lately that hardly recognize him. He is hostile to me his mother and doesn’t respect anything I say. He says he believes in God and is still wants to do something in his life that makes a difference to the world. He has done some amazing things for an 18 yr old such as produce a CD of the talent in his school and sold enough for charity to raise $1000 then the other night he arranged a coffee house with some of his friends and raised
$600 for a local girl who has cancer and needs extra funds to get the treatment she needs. I am very proud of these accomplishments for him and tell him so but he still seems angry at me and It falls on deaf ears. We have defiantly had many struggles over the last few months about going to school, getting up outa bed before noon ete. He says I don’t understand him and I need to leave him alone to live his own life. I the mean time I still have to wake him for work and get him there I am trying to do those things for this summer to keep the peace and get him through. He had plans to attend a christian college in the fall which I was supporting but lately he is talking about attending a music recording collage in vancover BC really far away from home. I have a hart time knowing how to respond.

]]> Comment on Recreation for All Ages by Megan http://intentionalparents.com/2009/01/30/recreation-for-all-ages/comment-page-1/#comment-16242 Megan Mon, 04 Jul 2011 16:49:31 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/?p=167#comment-16242 Hiking and camping are great. If the kids are really young, a brief hike around a lake or on a wooded trail can be fun, and backpack carriers are helpful for the youngest ones. Camping out together can create lots of memories, and both activities can easily carry over into adulthood. We also look forward to canoeing once are kids are old enough! Hiking and camping are great. If the kids are really young, a brief hike around a lake or on a wooded trail can be fun, and backpack carriers are helpful for the youngest ones. Camping out together can create lots of memories, and both activities can easily carry over into adulthood. We also look forward to canoeing once are kids are old enough!

]]> Comment on Finding Your Child’s Way on the Autism Spectrum by Patti http://intentionalparents.com/2009/10/08/finding-your-childs-way-on-the-autism-spectrum/comment-page-1/#comment-9712 Patti Mon, 14 Feb 2011 02:25:27 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/?p=223#comment-9712 I've just found your website and it's wonderful. I want to say that I absolutely agree with your recommendation of this book. I have a 6 year old boy who is mostly recovered (due to diet and GI meds) but still has challenges, of course. At age 5, we were having a terrible time with whining and refusals to obey. Discipline methods that were successful with our older typical daughter just didn't work. I could also tell that he would "shut down" when I was speaking to him. I found this book, implemented several of the techniques immediately and we got the results we wanted fairly quickly. One day, after reading the book, I asked him if he knew that God wants him to obey his parents. He said, "He does?" I said, yes, He does, and my son responded, "well, OK!!" and that was that. If only it would always be that simple! I’ve just found your website and it’s wonderful. I want to say that I absolutely agree with your recommendation of this book. I have a 6 year old boy who is mostly recovered (due to diet and GI meds) but still has challenges, of course. At age 5, we were having a terrible time with whining and refusals to obey. Discipline methods that were successful with our older typical daughter just didn’t work. I could also tell that he would “shut down” when I was speaking to him. I found this book, implemented several of the techniques immediately and we got the results we wanted fairly quickly. One day, after reading the book, I asked him if he knew that God wants him to obey his parents. He said, “He does?” I said, yes, He does, and my son responded, “well, OK!!” and that was that. If only it would always be that simple!

]]> Comment on Raw Materials and Lots of Time by Sonya http://intentionalparents.com/2005/07/01/raw-materials-and-lots-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-6607 Sonya Mon, 13 Dec 2010 15:15:31 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2005/07/01/raw-materials-and-lots-of-time/#comment-6607 It's tough with little ones, yes. However, I encourage you to continue trying to protect the older ones' projects as best you can. A couple of suggestions come to mind. <ol> <li>Point out the benefits of nap time. Your older ones could get a good start on projects while younger ones sleep or rest.</li> <li>Allow your younger ones to participate, but keep them contained. I used to put my daughter in a high chair, strapped in for safety, and tape some paper to the tray. She got a couple of crayons and could entertain herself while I made supper. You could do the same sort of thing for "craft time." (Oh, and make sure you don't get sucked into the "game" of throwing crayons on the floor so Mom can pick them up for me.)</li> <li>Encourage your older ones to do their projects on a table where it is more difficult for little hands to get ahold of things and interfere.</li> </ol> Above all, remember that this is a season in life. Set the tone you want and know that it will get easier! It’s tough with little ones, yes. However, I encourage you to continue trying to protect the older ones’ projects as best you can. A couple of suggestions come to mind.

  1. Point out the benefits of nap time. Your older ones could get a good start on projects while younger ones sleep or rest.
  2. Allow your younger ones to participate, but keep them contained. I used to put my daughter in a high chair, strapped in for safety, and tape some paper to the tray. She got a couple of crayons and could entertain herself while I made supper. You could do the same sort of thing for “craft time.” (Oh, and make sure you don’t get sucked into the “game” of throwing crayons on the floor so Mom can pick them up for me.)
  3. Encourage your older ones to do their projects on a table where it is more difficult for little hands to get ahold of things and interfere.

Above all, remember that this is a season in life. Set the tone you want and know that it will get easier!

]]> Comment on A Moment of Joy by Tammy http://intentionalparents.com/2010/12/02/a-moment-of-joy/comment-page-1/#comment-6038 Tammy Mon, 06 Dec 2010 03:23:27 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/?p=249#comment-6038 Yeah, Hannah!!!! Moments like that make my heart sing! Yeah, Hannah!!!! Moments like that make my heart sing!

]]> Comment on Raw Materials and Lots of Time by Becky Kemp http://intentionalparents.com/2005/07/01/raw-materials-and-lots-of-time/comment-page-1/#comment-4852 Becky Kemp Thu, 04 Nov 2010 07:06:05 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2005/07/01/raw-materials-and-lots-of-time/#comment-4852 I have 4 children from age 7 months to 4 years and I really want to give my children the time and space to do crafts and whatever else strikes their interest but i can't find a way to keep the younger 2 from destroying and making a complete mess (no disaster is a better word) of what the older 2 are doing without putting up gates or keeping them in a separate room. How can I enteract with 4 children so close in age but so different in thier maturity level? I am definately a survival parent right now but want so much to be an intentional parent. Becky I have 4 children from age 7 months to 4 years and I really want to give my children the time and space to do crafts and whatever else strikes their interest but i can’t find a way to keep the younger 2 from destroying and making a complete mess (no disaster is a better word) of what the older 2 are doing without putting up gates or keeping them in a separate room. How can I enteract with 4 children so close in age but so different in thier maturity level? I am definately a survival parent right now but want so much to be an intentional parent.

Becky

]]> Comment on Discipline 101 by Sonya http://intentionalparents.com/2004/09/01/discipline-101/comment-page-1/#comment-1620 Sonya Wed, 09 Jun 2010 01:23:04 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2004/09/01/discipline-101/#comment-1620 Sandra, I would recommend the book <a href="http://intentionalparents.com/2009/10/08/finding-your-childs-way-on-the-autism-spectrum/" rel="nofollow"><em>Finding Your Child's Way on the Autism Spectrum</em></a>. The author does a great job of addressing this topic of discipline with autistic children -- much better than I could do. Sandra, I would recommend the book Finding Your Child’s Way on the Autism Spectrum. The author does a great job of addressing this topic of discipline with autistic children — much better than I could do.

]]> Comment on Discipline 101 by Sandra http://intentionalparents.com/2004/09/01/discipline-101/comment-page-1/#comment-1558 Sandra Sat, 05 Jun 2010 11:07:19 +0000 http://intentionalparents.com/2004/09/01/discipline-101/#comment-1558 hi Sonya I found this article to be so useful. i have a 6 year old daughter with autism and ive been battleling the same question of how to discipline her. I agree and felt very much validated by your suggestions. my question is this: when you do realize it is a discipline issue and not a sensory issue(other from disability) how do you discipline? Spanking doesnt work, cross looks dont work... so then how... ? I have followed some suggestions from the book Sheperding a Child's Heart. I had my daughter memorize Ephesians 6:1, but im fiding that the behaviors keep happening... mostly talking back ( saying No, sripting angrily, speaking rudely). She will submit at the moment but the next time it happens all over again.... its definitely not a routine she's developed its a very natural and rebellious response.. I would appreciate your thoughts.. Blessings Sandra hi Sonya

I found this article to be so useful. i have a 6 year old daughter with autism and ive been battleling the same question of how to discipline her. I agree and felt very much validated by your suggestions.

my question is this: when you do realize it is a discipline issue and not a sensory issue(other from disability) how do you discipline? Spanking doesnt work, cross looks dont work… so then how… ?

I have followed some suggestions from the book Sheperding a Child’s Heart.

I had my daughter memorize Ephesians 6:1, but im fiding that the behaviors keep happening… mostly talking back ( saying No, sripting angrily, speaking rudely). She will submit at the moment but the next time it happens all over again…. its definitely not a routine she’s developed its a very natural and rebellious response..

I would appreciate your thoughts..

Blessings

Sandra

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