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Comment on Another Step On the Right Track by Mom

Mom — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 21:24:06 +0000

The day will never come that a “bad mommy” trophy would be in order for you! With all the “balls” that you juggle, sometimes it’s hard to see a change or difference immediately. I sometimes do the same thing and I’m a whole LOT older than you and don’t have nearly as much to occupy my mind. It’s what folks today call a “Duh” moment! (although there must be a better word for it! [smile])
Love, Mom

Comment on Another Step On the Right Track by Tammy

Tammy — Fri, 26 Feb 2010 14:05:12 +0000

You are not a bad mother! When it comes to autism, there are so many rabbit trails to pursue. It is humanly impossible to pursue them all. Even when Pamela handed us the center of a Reece’s Peanut Butter Cup, it did NOT click that she was allergic to peanuts!!!!!!!

It happens, you know!

Comment on A Reading Milestone by Tammy Glaser

Tammy Glaser — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 21:49:17 +0000

I didn’t realize you blogged Hannah’s journey. I’ll have to add it to my feed!

Yippee on the milestone!!!!

Comment on Smooth and Easy Days by Sonya

Sonya — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 17:15:20 +0000

Hi, Jennifer. I don’t think the habit of kindness is too broad for a 4yo, especially if you illustrate it with your voice and actions and also with stories. Ephesians 4:32 is a great verse to memorize to go with kindness. I would emphasize both actions and words/voice together.

Also, I would encourage you to state this trait in the positive; that tip saved me a lot of argument. For example, rather than saying, “Don’t use that tone of voice” or “Don’t hit your brother,” state what you expect, “Use a kind voice” and “Be kind.” I found that if I tried to explain what I didn’t want, I ended up dealing with all the possible exceptions the child could think of. For example, if she pushed a sibling and I corrected her for being unkind, she would argue “But I didn’t hit,” which is what I had said not to do last time.

I did use a “pop” on the bottom or hand to gain full attention quickly and reinforce rules, yes. Keep in mind that such correction should never be done in anger or frustration, but in a controlled manner with the child’s best interests in mind. You are not hitting them in unkindness, you are lovingly turning their attention away from the forbidden action quickly and back to the right path for their own good.

Comment on Smooth and Easy Days by Jennifer

Jennifer — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 03:04:35 +0000

I am currently training my 4 year old in the habit of kindness. Just started actually, but wondering if this is too broad. My main goals are for her to always speak kindly, even when someone else is doing something that makes her angry, and to be considerate (ex: not snatch a toy from someone else or grab it up quickly before someone else can). Should I focus on kind actions for 6 weeks, then kind words/voice for 6 weeks? Do you ever advocate a “pop” on the bottom?

Comment on Prayer Photo Album by Dionna

Dionna — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 19:14:30 +0000

What a wonderful idea!

Comment on A Reading Milestone by Jennifer

Jennifer — Thu, 03 Dec 2009 00:55:22 +0000

That’s such fantastic news! Congrats to both you and Hannah for all your hard work!

Comment on Great Stories Level by The Two Keys of Giving Your Children the Bible - Intentional Parents

The Two Keys of Giving Your Children the Bible - Intentional Parents — Sun, 11 Oct 2009 01:45:44 +0000

[...] approach Bible knowledge in three stages that cover toddlers through teens. The first stage is the Great Stories stage. Young children love to hear stories; God made them that way. And God also gave much of His Word in [...]

Comment on Narration Progress by Shellie

Shellie — Wed, 23 Sep 2009 19:44:42 +0000

How wonderful! I am sure that by you re-wording her sentences, eventually she will catch on to the pattern. She really understands, that is so awesome
I have not followed your blog for long, however I have been reading a bunch today, and really like it. Thank you for your wonderful resources.
Shellie

Comment on What About College? by Linda Larson

Linda Larson — Tue, 01 Sep 2009 12:52:29 +0000

Thanks Sonya, it sounds like your daughter has found a perfect niche for herself. I wish her all the luck in the world and will prayerfully consider our options. I appreciate your response.